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How I Started Life Coaching

5/26/2010

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Early one morning as a man walked along the beach, he saw an unusual scene. Thousands of starfish that had washed up on shore were dying in the sun. In the distance he noticed a young woman picking up starfish and throwing them back into the ocean, one at a time. When he came close enough to her to be heard above the waves he said, “You’re wasting your time. There are thousands of starfish along this beach front. You can’t possibly make a difference.”

She reached down, picked up a starfish, and gently threw it as far as she could, back into the sea. “I made a significant difference to that one, didn’t I?” as she reached down to pick up another.

That’s how I feel about being a Life Coach. Coaching works. One person at a time. One changed life at a time.  In 1998, I traveled from St. Paul, Minnesota to visit my married daughter in Chicago, Illinois. One evening, so she didn’t have to alter her plans, I agreed to go with her to a meeting of small business owners.

That night the speaker was a Personal and Professional Life coach. She talked about how life coaching helps people to live more effective and joyful lives. She discussed how people sabotage themselves and stay stuck. 
Then she asked us all several questions:

  1. What is the benefit in not knowing about your sabotaging methods?
  2. How do your “but, but, but” responses protect you–and from what?
  3. What is the next most important step you need to take?
  4. Are the excuses you tell yourself (and others) true?
  5. And when one of the people in the group responded to a question with “I don’t know” she said, “What would your answer be if you did know.
I was fascinated. It’s like a voice inside me whispered, “This fits you, Joan.” While sitting there that day, I remembered the on-purpose statement God and I had been working on: I, Joan C. Webb, empowered by my growing friendship with the Triune God, help set people free.”

Soon after that serendipity meeting, I took coaches training and started with one client (I call each client a “coaching partner.”) Twelve years and hundreds of coaching hours later, I remain amazed about how the coaching process works. Life Coaching is a professional relationship that enhances the coachee’s ability to effectively focus on learning, making changes, achieving results and experiencing fulfillment–as the person God created him/her to be.

Have any of you experienced working with a Life Coach? What was it like for you?

Perhaps I’ll write more about the rewards of life coaching later.

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FREE Burnout Questionnaire

5/19/2010

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You Flirting with Action Addiction & Burnout?

Have you dreamed of slowing down, but keep hearing your internal-bully whisper “There’s no stinkin’ way you can do that!”

Perhaps you’re one of many in service-related careers or ministries who are on the fast track to burnout. (Just in case you wondering, here’s a good definition of burnout. Burnout is the type of stress and emotional fatigue that occurs when a series of (or combination of) events in a relationship, mission, way of life or job fail to produce an expected result.)

Awareness is an important step in changing this self-defeating lifestyle of overworking, overdoing, over-helping and over-committing. The following questionnaire can help you identify your need:

  • Do you have a difficult time relaxing?
  • Are you crankier than you used to be–even though you try hard to keep it to yourself?
  • Do you rush from one project to another?
  • Are you tired on an ongoing basis?
  • Do you feel increasingly depressed, anxious or hopeless?
  • Are you increasingly angry and don’t know why?
  • Do you spend less time with friends and family or in doing what you previously enjoyed?
  • Do you work hard and long, but accomplish less?
  • Is life (and/or your ministry) becoming a drag?
If you answered “yes” to several of these, you may be headed in the opposite direction of real life. I know the prospect of changing is frightening and overwhelming, yet, there is a way. Really.

There is HOPE.

You can admit your need, ask God for guidance and insight, seek help and resources, and then take active steps to reshape your thoughts and behavior. It sounds like a lot. Yet, that first step is all you need right now.

Show someone you love (preferably a healthy, supportive person!) your responses to this questionnaire. And then don’t back down. God honors truth-telling–even if that truth (the reality facing you) feels negative.

THERE IS LIFE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF BURNOUT. 

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Mom, Tell Jesus Hi for Me

5/10/2010

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My mother (who I always thought looked like a movie star!) suffered repeated TIAs (transient ischemic attacks, or “mini strokes”)1 and lost her sight, hearing, reasoning and ability to talk. I hated what was happening to her. Then that dreaded call: “She’s dying. Come.” On Mother’s fourth night at the hospital, my daughter, Lynnette, joined me.

Aunt Aileen & Mom as she was losing her sight

“I wonder if Aunt Aileen will run to meet Grandma,” said Lynnette.Mother and Aileen, who died previous year, loved being sisters. While we chatted about heaven, mom’s breathing turned more erratic. We watched her leave us. Kissing her cheek, I whispered, “This is Joanie, Mom. I love you. Tell Jesus hi for me.” (For years, she had asked me to say hi to my friends each time I left the house.) Stroking her thinning white hair, I recalled how, as a child, I had combed her thick black locks. Lynnette wiped the lips that had often whispered, “Honey, you’re special.”

Good-bye, Momma!

Death’s messiness didn’t terrify us as we imagined it would. Still, for weeks I tried to make sense of my emotions. Happy because life’s disappointment and anger didn’t matter to Mom anymore, I questioned the sad injustice of her disease and death too soon. One day God reassured me, “Joan, in that sterile hospital room, I sent angels to carry your mother to her Savior. You stood on holy ground” (see Acts 7:33).

Mom’s debilitating disease, premature death and my own struggle with grief remind me of my flawed reality. Yet on this Mother’s Day 2010, God’s hope guarantees me life beyond the inequity and loss I feel.*

What loss are you feeling this Mother’s Day season? What hope have you found?


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IMPORTANT: YOU are needed for NEW MOMS book!

5/5/2010

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  • I’m writing a NEW MOM book and I’d love your input. Your stories and tips can help another NEW MOM.
  • Joan as New Mom with Baby Rich

    Thanks to you who already gave me great stories. I have room for more. Need stories by June 1 unless otherwise indicated below. THX!

  • I know you’re busy. Let’s make this SIMPLE. Comment below or send me a message on Facebook. You don’t have to write a perfect (or even half-perfect) story. Just give me bullet points if you want to.
  • Here’s the next 8 chapters/topics. I need stories, tips, ideas, resources, Bible verses, quotes, jokes, funny experiences that answer the following questions. You can respond to none, 1, 2, or all these Q’s!
1.    Chapter 1: (already completed)

2.    Chapter 2: About how life changes. As a NEW MOM how did your life change? What surprised you? Who or want helped you adjust to your new life? Need these by May 10.

3.    Chapter 3: About the myriad of necessary decisions. As a NEW MOM what decisions were you faced with? Ex. When/if go back to work? Breast or bottle? What car seat? Babysitters? Feeding schedule? To let baby cry or not? How did you choose? Need these by May 17.

4. Chapter 4: About sleeplessness and foggy thinking. As a NEW MOM how did fatigue & sleeplessness affect you? What helped? What hindered? Need these by May 20.

5.    Chapter 5: About daddies and your relationship with them. As a NEW MOM, how did you and your husband find time to connect? Stories, tips, cautions?

6.      Chapter 6: About dealing with your emotions and body changes. As a NEW MOM, how did you deal with fluctuating emotions, body changes, weight loss/gain? Crying jags? Postpartum blues? Depression?

7.    Chapter 7: About how TIME changes for you during this pre-occupying time. As a NEW MOM, what happened to your schedule, time management? You structured? Flexible? Bothered by Time? Stories, tips.

8. Chapter 8: About how your definition of LOVE changes. As a NEW MOM, how was your concept of LOVE challenged, changed? What did you anticipate you’d feel? What DID you feel? Stories, tips, resources, advice. Scripture.

9. Chapter 9: About any unrealistic expectations you, your family, friends, the church or  society places on you. As a new mom, what unreasonable expectations did you have for yourself, your baby or your family? How did you try too hard to make it all just right? Stories, tips, scripture, helps, solutions?



I will not be using your full names. And will need a signed permission sheet (which I can send to you) if I use your first name or tell your story with the details you give me. I may do composite stories. Thanks for being cool with all this. Let me know if you have questions.

Relief to you today,

Joan

P.S. Yes, I know the numbers are different sizes and colors. Oh, well. A little “relief of imperfection” here!

P.P.S. Yes, you can pass this request to other MOMS who you think may have good stories/tips to share. We’re all in this to help other MOMS.

P.P.P.S. Sorry, but because this is a WORK FOR HIRE writing project, I cannot compensate you or give you a copy of the book. I will let you know when it comes out, however. And I think the book will only cost (retail) $7.99. So that’s good!


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    Writing, teaching, coaching to empower and set free.
    Joan is an inspirational speaker, Bible teacher, Life Coach, and author of 13 books including It's a Wonderful (Imperfect) Life, The Relief of Imperfection, The Intentional Woman. She does consulting, as well as Life Coaching, for writers, speakers, ministry leaders and entrepreneurs.

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